"Aren't you scared to be alone? 

Being alone is the scariest thing that can happen to you. Who will you share your life with? Time will pass you by and you will be with absolutely no one."

Now that is scary!

Would you like to know what is scary? Scary is realizing that at age 30-40 you're not with the right person. Scary is having a divorce in your late 40s-50s and reflecting on how many years you threw away. Investing the majority of your prime years with someone who isn't for you, that's scary. Scary is having to work through a toxic relationship for years to try to convince yourself and your family that your love life is "doing alright"!

Don't be scared to be alone. 

Embrace your space and learn to love YOU first before you can love and invest your time for anyone else. You can't expect to learn to love someone else when you are barely getting to know who YOU are. It took me years to realize that I wasn't myself with the person I thought I loved. I am a "LOL" type of person and for the longest would stay in "STFU" status because I felt embarrassed to laugh out loud and be myself. Can you relate? It took everything I had in me to make a change in my life. 

Family vacation gone wrong! 

I was in Mexico lost on some beach with my tiny tiny little family, yes just both parents with a baby girl. I was always scared to ask outrageous questions to my significant other to restrain from unwanted answers. Makes life a lot easier knowing I didn't have to put up a fight to prove a point. I decided to grab it by the balls, not literally, but I asked an uncomfortable question-" Do you plan on living in Mexico for good?" The answer was "I will always live where my family is at. I am planning to live here for good after this vacation." I thank the man above us for giving me the strength to ask this question. Just like that, with a snap of a finger, in this very moment, I realized, this wasn't meant for me. I was born and raised in WA state and picking up everything to stay in Mexico, was not it for me. 

Set the example!

I would feel devastated if I set that type of example for my daughter. That's a young woman in the making. What would you do if you allowed your child to think that being alone is the worst thing in the world? We humans are great to play a huge factor in perception. We set false expectations for ourselves and for those who surround us. You set yourself up for failure. You plant a seed in your mind that will remind you that being "alone" is shameful. 

Not the same thing!

The people who are alone are the people who get comfortable not depending on anything from anyone. What we need to understand is that alone and lonely are not the same thing. Still, confused? Here is an example, you can live alone in your house that brings you joy. Your home is your happy place. You can live in a house full of people/family and you can feel isolated and alone. Catch the difference? 

Own it!

I have never been happier in my life being "alone". Walk your  damn path and stay true to yourself! This walk is hard but the toughest walk is not walking at all. When you are alone, you are liberated. When you are dependent on people, that's bondage. 

With that, fellow friends I leave you this- 

Being alone is a power that very few people can handle.