"Being a single mom is not a good look."

These were my mothers words that last few months. I love my mother, she's the strongest person I know in this world.

Let me start by saying I was in a relationship for almost 8 years. My life was full with luxurious items. I can say I lived a pretty decent life, financially. This luxurious life I had, came with some complexity. When you're not yourself in a relationship,  you know it's time for some change. In 2017 I was blessed with a babygirl. She's my whole entire life. Relationships aren't easy, the road was bumpy. 

When I found my worth as a women, I knew I was not going to settle for less. My mom came over one Saturday afternoon, and she asked, "Are you arguing again?". Of course not, we're just not speaking. This was not healthy. My mental health was at risk for many years. I was not afraid anymore. I didn't care what THEY would say about me. My mom cried about my situation. She was a single mom herself. She said it was not easy and being a single mom is a lonely life. 

I want to be alone, it's not as bad as you think. In fact, it's not bad at all. I can say for myself I want to be a so call single mom for good. I'm single by choice and happy with that decision. 

Cook for only one person

My dishes are always minimal. Cooking for a toddler is the quickest easiest thing if you only have to worry about cooking for your child and not a man. As long as my babygirl is eating her 3 meals plus snacks, I'm good with a salad, protein bar, yogurt, and some chilaquiles on the weekends.

Don't explain anything to anyone

I could have a 6 pack of Mikes hard lemonade in my fridge and I wouldn't have anyone to judge me or question me. I don't have to give HIM an explanation. My daughter can be in pajamas on a Sunday, and no one would see it but us two. Having dinner passed 8pm with no questions asked. I never felt so free wearing a little black dress on a Friday night. 

Minimal laundry 

Don't get me wrong, toddlers and babies in general have plenty of clothe that soon stacks up. Imagine doing your laundry, his laundry, (vice versa) and your babies laundry? Just imagine the men jeans. Yeah! Saved from that. In all reality I love doing laundry. The smell of fresh clean clothe gives me strength for the next load. 

Sleep in peace

Can we all agree having to NOT worry about anyones lies or excuses is peaceful. I'm above that. How many times does one person have to repeatedly lie or come up with lame excuses for us WOMEN to realize that enough is enough. I put my sleep music on and say goodnight to my baby and peacefully fall asleep. I don't have to worry about any heart break or tears. Your child is priority. Take care of YOU so you can take care of YOUR baby. 

It's EMPOWERING to know my creation is 100% all me

Take credit! You're raising your child the way YOU want to. Embrace every moment. Your child grows with you. Every parent brags about their baby, I'm one of them. No kidding, my two year old is  one of the smartest kids I know. Believe it or not, the compliments I receive fill me up. I feel immensely great that it was me who taught her right from wrong. Kids are intelligent creatures. They watch and they learn quickly. I can continue bragging about all the great things my young girl does on a daily, but you get the picture. 

 I did that!

You have to WANT it

Feel empowered to say YOU want to be a single mother! Ladies, it is not a lonely life. You have a human being with you 99% of the time. It can be challenging, but you are not alone. No one said being a single mom is easy, it's far from that. It's a choice you have to make for yourself. Let's make this "being a single mom is not a good look" a GREAT look.

Special thanks to my Mother for understanding my decision. 

Gracias Madre.